Defensiveness arises when we suspect we may be wrong

In my experience, those who become defensive and angry in a discussion are those who aren't sure their position is correct. They respond with anger when they're afraid of being found out, when they're afraid they might be wrong. That's always been a good reminder for me when I find my ire raising: something's not … Continue reading Defensiveness arises when we suspect we may be wrong

If I’m doing the wrong thing, TELL ME!

English was my mother’s second language, and she had a good command of it except for one word: she pronounced “crazy” as if it began with a g—“grazy.” As a teenager, that drove me grazy-crazy, and finally one day I told her that. “What?!” she exclaimed. “I’ve been saying it wrong all these years, and … Continue reading If I’m doing the wrong thing, TELL ME!

“Just tell them that underneath it all, despite what they may see, the sky really is blue and they can count upon that fact.”

There’s no creature quite so arrogant and simultaneously so insecure as an 11-year-old. I learned this many years ago when I was asked to drive a group of 11-year-olds for a church group because I owned a station wagon. (Yes, I owned a station wagon at age 25, and was proud of it! I also … Continue reading “Just tell them that underneath it all, despite what they may see, the sky really is blue and they can count upon that fact.”