What if, instead of worrying about the world and its expectations, we focused on only a couple of key items and let the rest of world just . . . go on its way?
Think about that: maybe there’s only a handful of things we really need to worry about, and as for the millions of other demands the world makes upon us we just ignore them.
Wouldn’t that be amazing?
My friend clued me into “Essentialism,” which redefines minimalism and suggests that we should “discern what is absolutely essential, then eliminate everything that is not.” Greg McKeon argues that we get too caught up in the non-essentials: “non-essentialism is this idea that everything has to be done and that you have to do it all. Everything is equally important so therefore I have to try to do it all. That’s an idea — if I can do it all, I can have it all.”
But what if we don’t bother with doing it all? Why would we want it all anyway?
What if we quit following every news outlet, every fashion, every new-and-latest thing, every competition and demand for our attention, and focus instead on only a few ESSENTIAL points?
We’d be a heckuva lot happier!
Consider how simpler life would be if we:
- stopped fretting that our houses aren’t up to date (no, you don’t have to put shiplap on every wall),
- that our kids aren’t excelling in every sport/musical instrument/dance/karate/theatrical production (freeing up afternoons and weekends),
- that we’re not on top of every trend (anyone remember how fast Pokemon Go came and went? Men’s rompers will go the same way, so don’t give them another thought).
- And what if we let the world go on its way . . . without us?
I think about life in the 1800s, how people focused on survival, their immediate family and neighbors, their little communities, and had no idea what the gossip was on the other side of the state or the world. They could think about real things, urgent things, important things.
Whereas we think about silly, petty, and divisive things.
But we don’t have to. We can center our lives on very few priorities and shut out everything else.
So what would those priorities be? How about the only thing that really matters: developing Christlike attributes.
To become like Him is the main reason we’re on this earth, going through this trial of life to see what our hearts really want, and to see how we can become more like Him. And you know what? I’m thinking more and more that being like Christ is the best and only worry I need.
And that “worry” isn’t even a concern. Look what He said in Matthew 11:
28 Come unto me, all ye that labor [to keep up with the demands of the world] and are heavy laden [with the world’s expectations], and I will give you rest [because we set that all aside].
29 Take my yoke upon you [and throw off what the world expects of you], and learn of me [instead of the world]; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls [because I teach the peaceable things of the kingdom].
30 For my yoke is easy [way easier than anything the world demands], and my burden is light [lighter than anything the world shoves upon you].
And that’s all there is to it.
People assume that because I have nine kids I’m constantly busy and harried. But the truth is–and sometimes I’m embarrassed to admit it–I’m not. Quite often I can spend hours each day in pursuits I enjoy–writing, reading, researching–because we don’t bother with the non-essentials.
My kids aren’t involved in many activities; we don’t run around endlessly every afternoon from one thing to another–I let them entertain themselves like some 1970s throwback mom. I don’t demand perfect grades from them (grades aren’t an indicator of future success anyway), but I let them push themselves, which they do.
My house isn’t spotless or trendy (I’ve got better things to do), I make simple meals for dinner, and, frankly, I’m pretty relaxed most of the time. I almost feel guilty about that . . . but then I decide I don’t need to bother with worldly guilt, either, and let the feeling go.
We take care of each other, study the gospel, go to church, play together, educate each other and . . . that’s about it. Easy.
I am, however, trying to increase the amount of time I spend on others, trying to find additional ways we can be of service, because that’s really the purpose of life: taking care of others as Christ did.
The apostle James put it in simple terms:
27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction [taking care of the vulnerable and needy around us], and to keep himself unspotted from the world [ignore the world]. ~ James 1:27
That’s it. Only two things, just like Christ said to the lawyer in Matthew 22:
37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind [not giving any of your heart, soul, or mind to the world which will treat you cruelly].
38 This is the first and great commandment [which will keep you unspotted and unburdened by the world].
39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself [by taking care of the vulnerable and needy].
40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets [and you need not bother about anything else].
Simple, sweet, and satisfying! (Unlike the world.)
We can do that. Anyone can do that.
And we should, because consider these words of Christ:
36 For what shall it profit a man, if he shall again the whole world [be accepted by it, follow its trends and demands religiously], and lose his own soul? [Worldliness kills the soul—simple as that.] ~Mark 8:36
I’m not saying it’s easy to shut out the world. I’ve been working on doing that for quite some time now, trying to cut off more and more connections to it, especially through social media. Our family quit TV and radio some years ago (just getting rid of advertisements significantly increased peace in our lives). There are still many aspects I struggle with, and likely will my entire life. It’s hard to live in the world and not have some of it rub off on you, like trying to squeeze between muddy elephants without getting dirty.
Purposely not doing what everyone else around you is can be a little disconcerting. Sometimes I suffer from FOMO: fear of missing out. But just because the crowd is insistent, just because you feel the need to be like everyone else, you don’t have to be. This image, which I ran across many years ago, has seared deeply into my soul. I want to be that guy.
I’m discovering that when I ask God how I can step further away from the world so that I can be closer to Him, He gives me ideas, nudges me away from distractions and gently prods me toward more important activities. He wants me and my family to be unspotted, and He wants to ease our burdens. I have full confidence that He can get us all the way where we need—and want—to be, because, awesomely, He’s already done it himself:
“These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace [because haven’t you grown weary of keeping up with the world yet?]. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world [and so can you].” ~John 16:3
“You look so tired, Young Pere. So weary, my sweet boy. Did you ever have a day of peace in the world?”
“No,” he sighed. “Not that I remember.”
“Then isn’t it time to let go of the world?”
~Book 8 (Yes, there’s a book 8!)
8 thoughts on “What if we just quit bothering with the world? The easiness of essentialism.”
I feel the same way. The world is there, but I try to keep my own little world free from the anxieties, distrust, hatred, etc. of the bigger world. I love your work because it helps me remember what is truly important. Thank you for that as well as for the entertainment factor. Yes, I am LDS also and so appreciative of good LDS authors who write truths and hope. When will Book 7 come out? I can’t wait to read it.
Thank you so much! I’ve just sent Book 7 to my beta readers for them to pick apart and tell me what needs fixing. Since I’m moving to Maine next week, I can’t do much work on it anyway. But I’m hoping (hoping!) to get it out before Christmas, maybe even well before that . . .
And then there’s Book 8 . . .
I will keep watching for it. You are also in my prayers, that you will have time to do, that if it is Father’s will, a top priority will be to finish this whole series asap. ;o) May your move go well and may you come to understand lighthouses and lobster traps etc.
Beverly, I so totally need that right now! I’ll take all the prayers I can get! So far we’re doing well, but my little anxiety disorder loves to flare up at the most inconvenient moments.
And yes, I want to get this series DONE and OUT THERE! It needs to live, wholly and entirely.
The older I get, the more I find that I really just don’t care about all that stuff out there. I am so far into “so what” mode at this point in my life. Is *latest cool whatever* advancing my goals? Improving my life or my family members lives? Making our days happier and more meaningful? No? Then I have better things to do with my time, thanks.
Exactly! And isn’t it a relief to be in that mode?
I feel like I comment the same thing every time, but this is SO GOOD. This is definitely something that we are working on, too; less of the world and more of Christ.
Kindred spirits, I’m telling you!