The most dangerous words are “I deserve.”

The worst decisions I’ve ever made can be traced back to my believing that I “deserved” something. No good action follows the declaration that we “deserve” something. I know the internet is awash in memes that declare we all deserve better, and should bend all efforts to attaining what we so desperately want and feel … Continue reading The most dangerous words are “I deserve.”

I hate guns, but there’s something I hate even more (A pacifist’s confession)

I hate guns. They terrify me. They kill, indiscriminately, even in the hands of the most skilled and trained users. I hate their shape, their noise, and the smell of the cleaning agents. My neighborhood is filled with gun-lovers. Hunters, cops, concealed-weapon holders—I’m surrounded by them. I wish I knew who stored loaded handguns in … Continue reading I hate guns, but there’s something I hate even more (A pacifist’s confession)

Are you going to let the latest tragedy make you harder, or softer?

It’s happened yet again. Another horrific event/accident/terrorism incident, and in the comments of the articles and in social media we see blaming of the victim: If only they’d watched their child better, or If only they hadn’t been at that place at that time, or If only they’d been more careful, less stupid. If only … Continue reading Are you going to let the latest tragedy make you harder, or softer?

Are you sure you’re happy? 12 Traits of Happy People

Despite the world's best efforts, it’s not impossible to be happy. That was the premise I began with as I stared at another dismal news day. Instead of ranting here about what's wrong in the world, as usual, I decided instead to spend a few days observing how people remain happy, especially when all around is … Continue reading Are you sure you’re happy? 12 Traits of Happy People

My kids are high school dropouts, and I couldn’t be happier about it

My 17-year-old daughter has been awarded an academic scholarship to the university she’s attending this fall. But she wasn’t mentioned in the assembly the high school held last week honoring scholarship recipients. She’s leaving high school with a 3.9 GPA, but she won’t receive any honors. She quietly walked away from school yesterday, and didn’t … Continue reading My kids are high school dropouts, and I couldn’t be happier about it